So you begin the journey of infertility. No matter which direction you are heading towards, whether you are undergoing IUI, fertility drugs, sperm/egg donors, IVF, blood issues, ovulation issues, PCOS, etc., chances are you are dealing with an insane amount of stress that you never expected, nor know how to handle, in many cases.
In every day life, people have their beliefs about psychotherapy. Maybe you are all for it, but maybe you're not. No judgments either way, but in this bubble of life called infertility, I pose the option of seeking counseling as a necessary life raft to help you navigate your path towards parenthood. Depending on your health insurance benefits, some insurance companies pay for a certain number of visits per year, or a portion of it. Whatever it is, I implore you to at least look into it.
Look for a therapist who specializes in infertility. Go on RESOLVE'S web site (the leading national association that provides timely, compassionate support and information to people who are experiencing infertility and increases awareness of infertility issues through public education and advocacy) at www.resolve.org. Google specialists in your area. Ask your doctor. Chances are pretty high that your doctor's office has a therapist on staff to help you deal with the stress, or can refer you to someone.
In my case, my fertility doctor's office had an entire department of mental health professionals to help patients deal with the struggles of infertility. Think about it: several staff members were dedicated entirely to help patients deal with the process. Doesn't that say something about how incredibly hard this journey is, to provide an entire department of professionals to patients? In my experience, no other medical specialty offers such a service in-house. I highly recommend taking advantage, if your clinic offers it.
Why carry the burden alone, if you don't have to? Reach out and get help. That's what they are there for, to help you manage the fears, the anxiety, the stress, the overwhelming feelings that accompany every step along the way. No one judges you. No one pities you. They are just there to help you. In my opinion, let them.