Why does one of the most painful processes in life have to also have a stigma attached to it as well? As if anyone ASKED for it. As if anyone WANTED to go through it. As if anyone wouldn't give a limb to NOT have to deal with it (ok, maybe that's a bit dramatic...but you know what I mean).
Anyone dealing with infertility most likely knows what I'm talking about when I mention "the stigma." That 'yeesh' expression people have on their face when learning that you're struggling with having a child on your own. Instant judgment. Instant pity. Instant 'I-don't-know-what-the-hell-to-say-to-you-next' awkwardness.
Well, perhaps you can find SOME comfort in knowing that the statistics don't lie. 1 out of every 8 people are infertile. I don't mean those people who just need to "relax and go on vacation...it'll happen naturally." I mean the people who actually ARE infertile and need intervention from a reproductive endocrinologist. Stat. Think about it....1 in 8 people. So if you are gathered together in a group of 8 friends, one of you is infertile (just for a second, let's not assume it is you). Sit around your holiday table and scan 8 women of childbearing age, seated near you. One of them is infertile (same assumption, if you'll indulge me for another moment).
My point is that you're not as freaky as you might feel. Yes, infertility is one of the most unnatural processes ever. No joke. But, doesn't it give you SOME comfort in knowing that you're not alone? That people in your life may be dealing with it too, even if they aren't yet ready to talk about it?
It takes a brave person to push past the stigma, own their journey, and be the hope that others can lean on in times of difficulty. I guarantee you that once you know that your situation is helping others, suddenly your struggles have meaning. And suddenly you can take the focus off you for just a moment, to wish someone else the courage you found. That is how we can push past the stigma. Bravo!